Since taking it on a few days ago, I’m learning that being alive in general challenges being peaceful. I woke up feeling peaceful and simply high on life. Nothing could bother me. I was sure I had attained Nirvana in these few short days and it would be mine forever!
Then the day continued. Someone said something and my good vibes crumbled into a pile of upset. I panicked since that was so un-30-day-challenge of me. I turned to the challenges themselves and applied them to this new development:
- What can I be grateful about in this situation? Ok, I can’t be upset and grateful at the same time.
- There is nothing wrong here. It’s not bad after all.
- Can I request something that will make a difference for both of us? I did and then let it go.
Those few steps were enough to dissipate the frustration and leave me open to allowing it to resolve itself the way things normally do. I had nothing to do after I cleared away my concern.
Going through those steps made me think of what other challenge would aid me in attaining the unrecognizable life in these 30 days. What else could I practice? Today’s challenge loudly asserted itself in my mind and it was something I’d rather just not do.
Today’s challenge: Give up being right, especially when you know you are.
Come again? I’m smart. Very. I know things. A lot. I’m right. Often. Now I have to give that up? These challenges are asking for too much.
Then I thought about it. No one ever wins arguments. No one. Being caught up in being right kills the very affinity I need to keep living. I can be right and pissed off. I can be right and isolated. I can be the most right, miserable person I can be. Or I can cast righteous rightness aside just be with people. I don’t have to agree or discard my values. I just don’t have to burst a blood vessel trying to convince them of the brilliance of my view.
If I stop being right, maybe I will learn new things. If I humble myself, maybe someone will see the thing I was illustrating on their own. When I pull back from that battle, people can relax and stop defending their viewpoints. Then maybe, just maybe, we can contribute to each other. That’s the real prize!
Today’s victory: During round two of the earlier upsetting conversation, I was able to stop myself and say I had no idea how I, you, this should be. In giving up being right in that conversation, I gave the other person space to breathe and stop fighting. In turn, I was given the same gracious space and then some.
Gratitude: I am grateful for people and opportunities that sprout up, giving me exactly what I need when I need it.
On the horizon: Stay tuned
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