Before I came to Nigeria, I had lofty ideas about how I was going to approach “the new experience.” 2 months into my visit, those ideas have not come anywhere near the reality of my what I call my #naijalife all over my Twitter feed.
As per my last post, I did my best to hold my judgment at bay. I have learned, by the way, that at best, I can work toward a momentary reprieve from harshly maligning things I don’t know, understand or accept. At my weakest, I have been known to batter a new situation endlessly with disapproval.
In that regard, I’ve come to a tenuous agreement with my opinionated self during this trip: no snap judgments. I allow myself to have opinions. I just will not spew them instantaneously. I observe. I process. I notice its effect on me. Am I reacting to what I’m seeing in front of me or an unpleasant trigger based in the past?
It is for that reason that I’m just now beginning to blog 2 months later. A good deal of what would have come out of me earlier would have been reaction-based and far from generous.
Let me begin from the beginning and see how far that gets us.