Gratitude Day 22

Day 22 of 30 Days of Tessism is all about gratitude for something simply pleasureable.

Gratitude:  Today, I am grateful for the opportunity to stop everything, sneak away and catch a moment of respite from my hectic life.  A nap takes that gratitude to another level of ecstasy.  I’m glad for the times when I take a moment to myself and relax.  During those times, the forces in my world collude to make sure that no one disturbs me until I’m ready to jump back in.  I am responsible for nothing and no one.  I have nothing to do do.  Nowhere to go.  Absolute heaven.

Those moments give me the fuel to keep going and going to achieve my goals.  I am utterly grateful for time to relax and be with myself.

Gratitude Day 21

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On Day 21 of 3o Days of Tessism, gratitude comes in the aftermath.

Gratitude:  Today, I am grateful for how quickly and easily I recover from disasters.  I don’t just learn my lesson and slink away.  Every setback has an unseen victory and I am grateful for the fortune to find that win every time.  It doesn’t happen right away but eventually I realize that some circumstances I so desperately fought for or against were actually not  what I thought they were.  The things I was so sure were right turn out to not be so and getting the opposite of what I planned works out in my favor and vice versa.  In that way, I have grown to trust God and the Universe that it will all work out eventually.  For that I remain grateful.

Gratitude Day 20

Day 20 of 30 Days of Tessism has gratitude in something that can’t always be seen.

Gratitude:  Today I am grateful for what I don’t have.  I guess that’s probably an odd thing to be grateful for but it’s quite liberating.  Being grateful for that allows me to strive for things and let go of things that I don’t need.  I find it freeing to be grateful for what I do have and what I do not have and how that shapes me in my journey.

No matter how much I amass materially, nothing is more important than the family and friends that I will have no matter what.  I really don’t need much more.  That makes me really consider anything I desire to see if it’s worth the effort.  Does it symbolize something?  Is it something I already have in another form?  Do I really need it?  I am grateful for conscious connection to the things that fill my life and freedom from the unnecessary.

Gratitude Day 19

Today, on day 19 of 30 Days of Tessism, gratitude comes unexpected.

Gratitude:  Today I am grateful for the moments where I find myself laughing at loud at anything and everything.  Sometimes things are so daunting that the only I can do is laugh.  I’m grateful for the people that help me guffaw my way past meltdown and defeat.

There are many people who just kick back and laugh at me when I’m taking things too seriously.  My mom can’t quite put her finger on it but there some look I give her that I’ve been giving her since I was a baby that sends her into peals of laughter.  I’m glad I can do that without even trying.

As someone who can get bogged down by drama and seriousness, I find that laughter is great medicine.  It has some great benefits.  It was one of my favorite challenges in last year’s 30-day challenge.  It is very healing and takes the edge off everything.  Read about the challenge here.  Then join me in a gratitude for a laughter with a good belly-deep one!

Gratitude Day 18

On Day 18 of 30 Days of Tessism gratitude grows from within.

Gratitude:  Today I am grateful for the strength to keep moving forward no matter how many times I stumble or get knocked down.  Theoretically, failure is a very necessary step toward success.  The faster you fail, the sooner you can learn your lesson and move onto success.  The only problem is that failure just doesn’t feel good.  Well at least not to me.  Maybe that’s something I should work on.

It hurts and many times, I’d rather just retreat somewhere and never have to deal with it again.  Yet somewhere, the strength bubbles up in me to keep at it in spite of the discomfort.  I am clear this is not all self-generated but comes equally from the support of people who truly believe in me.  I am grateful for all these things that converge to keep me pushing past “nos” and “impossibles” to create this extraordinary life.

Gratitude Day 17

Day 17 of 30 Days of Tessism finds gratitude in something obvious and sometimes overlooked until it is too late.

Gratitude: Today I am grateful for my health and vigor.  That is something that most of us don’t notice until it is compromised.  Now, while I am healthy, I especially need to be thankful.  I am ache and disease-free.  I can and have pushed my body to the limit in with athletic challenges.  It rewards me time and again.  It surprises me by doing things I never knew it could do.  It shows me that I have not reached my peak yet.

I have been told that your 30s are insurance for your the rest of your life.  Well, I’m glad I’ve been making deposits in my health bank at the gym and yoga studio.  I can only do my best and see how far that gets me.  In the meantime, I remain grateful for the vitality my health continues to grant me.

Gratitude Day 16

Day 16 of 30 Days of Tessism brings gratitude for a fulfilled wish.

Gratitude: Today I am grateful that I was finally able to travel to Nigeria after 30 years.  In spite of sad circumstances, I am glad to be here.  It has been an extremely comforting experience.  My homecoming was no sooner or later than it had to be.  I came here at the perfect time for me.  Thankfully, my birthplace  has welcomed me with open arms and has relieved me of any regret.  For that, I am grateful.

Gratitude Day 15

Halfway through 30 Days of Tessism, gratitude can be found in a writer’s necessity.

Gratitude:  Today I am grateful for having what Virginia Woolf described as “A Room of One’s Own” to contemplate and write.  I remain ever thankful that I was born into this time and can experience so much that women before me could not.

In my literal room, I can plot and worry without interruption or explanation.  In my figurative space, I can delve into my mind and express myself in any way I choose.  Today’s gratitude is simple and quiet, the very way I like that “room”.  I have room to be.  I have choice and freedom of expression.  Anything held back or put forth results from options I have thanks to those before me who paved and fought for a way.  For that, I am grateful.

Gratitude Day 14


I bring great news and the source of much gratitude on Day 14 of 30 Days of Tessism, new life.

Gratitude:  Today, I am beyond grateful for yesterday’s safe delivery of my newest godson.  And like that, a new open, clear mind has entered the world and is ready to absorb everything that comes his way.  It’s quite interesting that on the 14th day of last November’s 30-day challenge, I took on adopting a beginner’s mind.

With the birth of every child, we have the opportunity to observe the beginner’s mind in action and how it interacts with everyone and everything around it.  We have a lot to learn from the newly born.  I am grateful that he is born.  I am grateful for the honor being his godmother.  I am grateful for all that he will show and teach me.

Gratitude Day 13

Day 13 of 30 Days of Tessism finds gratitude in doing nothing.

Gratitude:  Today I am grateful for the ability to sit still and let things solve themselves.  I don’t have to fix or think about anything.  Often the best way to deal with a situation is to keep calm.  Once the dust clears, you sometimes realize there’s not much you can do to change what already happened.  You can only use the lesson and move on.

Truly “and this too shall pass” is one of the most soothing things I can tell myself in a frustrating situation.  Everything passes.  Heartbreak does not have to be forever.  Embarrassment fades.  Most things fade.  So does life.  Instead of frantically trying to change what already is, I can apply some peace to it and see where that takes me.  This approach has worked wonders.

I’ve learned that my usual inclination to bulldoze my to a solution just brings more trouble.  So I’m grateful that I can simply “be still” and life will reward me with insight greater than what my knee-jerk reaction would give me.